Boys, Lies, & Stereotypes

South Asian parents tend to agree that teenagers should not be dating—especially girls. Sure they’re allowed to have friends that are boys, but no ‘boyfriends’. But what do the teenagers think? We share snippets of their conversation, and let parents take a peak.

SAP: Would it help if your parents were more open-minded? If they were like Western parents?

Pri: I’d want them to be somewhere between white parents and the way they are now

Nish: yeah i wouldn’t want them to be too lenient. There need to be some morals. But not too strict.

SAP: So when you know your parents are just trying to do the best for you, how does it feel when you lie to them?

Pri: horrible :(. i hate it but sometimes i feel like i have no choice

Nish: its not nice at all but sometimes if it has to be done u have no choice

Angel93: really bad. but we can’t tell them and we don’t wanna give up the relationships

Pri: i used to lie to them a LOT until they kept catching me out. and it got to a point where it turned into a huge argument.. and I sat them down and said i have a boyfriend. if you personally go to your parents and talk to them about something then they’re more likely to take u seriously and respect u more. u seem more like an adult. u approach the situation as an adult so they treat u like one

SAP: Any of you other girls considered doing the same as Pri?

Angel93: i wouldn’t because they wud be disappointed in me and id rather lie to them indirectly than them know the truth and be disappointed. i can understand boys may distract our education etc but they don’t realise that its not just you being stupid, that you may actually have proper feelings for him. Like I see their point of view in nearly everything so we can see both sides but they’re not willing to see our sides.

Nish: Yeah that is true. I can understand where they are coming from. but sometimes they don’t see our side and that’s what gets to me the most

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