The first we heard of a potentially serious relationship between our daughter, Indian by origin and broadly Hindu in religious inclination, and her friend, of Pakistani origin and Muslim by religion of birth, was through her email.
We can clink glasses to cross-caste marriages, smile politely at cross-cultural couples…But if ‘conversion’ comes up, we fall nothing short of an obvious eye-widen and a suppressed gasp. “Did she really convert for him?”
Mita married Nick eleven years ago—an Indian girl living in England found a life partner in a sensible, charming British man. They crossed cultural boundaries at a time when it wasn’t commonplace.
I was nervous to tell my dad I was dating Chris. I didn’t want to in the first place, but Chris was starting to get offended. I can’t remember how I brought it up on the phone, but I do remember how my dad responded.