Uttama

Tying the ‘NOT’

Mita married Nick eleven years ago—an Indian girl living in England found a life partner in a sensible, charming British man. They crossed cultural boundaries at a time when it wasn’t commonplace.

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Out of Bounds

I was nervous to tell my dad I was dating Chris. I didn’t want to in the first place, but Chris was starting to get offended. I can’t remember how I brought it up on the phone, but I do remember how my dad responded.

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Why toddlers misbehave

Toddlers around the world share the common trait of trouble. We are mortified to find that our toddler has stripped naked in front of her grand uncles, snatched the food off of a stranger’s dinner plate, or screamed profanities in the temple. Here are simplified explanations for some of the strangest behaviours we find in our little ones.

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‘Why has daddy got white skin?’

Half-half is an identity Anya and her mother Mita have created for themselves amidst a world of sticky labels and even stickier social rules. Contrary to the fear that children of cross-cultural couples will lose a part of their parents’ culture, Anya is an example of the opposite.

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Dating Just Desis: Why we do or don’t

Once rare, but now increasingly common, is the phenomenon of Desi girls dating non-South Asians. There are an increasing number of girls, like myself, who have crossed their parents and dated someone who on face value was not an ideal match.

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‘Parents need to grow up’

Rimi Kochar says it like it is. She raised two daughters in Indonesia, the younger of whom has been ‘romantically connected’ with an Australian man for four years. She is Indian by origin, but bound by no borders.

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Dancing with daddy

Bharatanatyam is generally defined as a classical Indian dance form originating in Tamil Nadu. In my household this definition needs to be extended to include the words “and our parents make us do it”. Although my wife introduced my daughters to the class, the duty has now fallen to me.

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